Comparison Fuels Our Feelings of Rejection

Embrace who God made each of us to be


If you are just joining us, we are journeying together through Lysa Terkeurst’s book, “Uninvited.” If you would like to read along, you can get your own copy of Lysa’s book HERE (affiliate link.)

Read the previous posts here:

Making Peace With Rejection
True Identity
When Our Perceptions Are Wrong
When Expectations Disappoint Us
Trusting God Instead of Rejection
When Your Friendship Breaks
Grace: The Antidote to Rejection
When Past Experiences Magnify Our Rejection
Rejection: Set Aside or Set Apart?

Today we take a look at chapter 10.

Comparison Fuels Our Feelings of Rejection

As Jesus girls, we can’t walk in victory while wallowing in thoughts of defeat and rejection. We must carry with us the sweet aroma of knowing Jesus everywhere we go.

Lysa’s words are true. If we wallow in those types of thoughts, we will feel defeated and rejected. Do you know what fuels those types of thoughts? Comparing ourselves to others. When comparison is happening, these types of thoughts show up:

  • She’s so much better than me.
  • Why does everything seem to fall into place for her?
  • Why don’t people like me the same as her?
  • Why can’t I be more like her?
  • She’s got it all together.

The list can go on and on. Go ahead and insert your own thought into the above list.

When we have thoughts like these, how can we possibly feel good about who we are? We will never measure up. We will struggle with feeling genuinely happy when good things happen for others and to them. Other feelings like jealousy and bitterness show up and then we can easily fall into the trap of gossip in order to try to highlight their faults. Somehow, this might elevate us a bit. We all know it doesn’t.

It’s an ugly place to be.

It feels awful.

So, what does it mean to walk in victory instead? We need to take our eyes off of others and off of ourselves and instead focus on Christ.

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We will never find our true self worth by comparing ourselves to others. We will never find our true self worth by trying to prove ourselves. We can only find our true self worth in Christ. This means that we look to Him to show us who we really are. We look to Him to show us who He created us to be. We look to Him to see how He sees us.

If we try to be like someone else, or better than someone else, or try to determine who we are on our own, we will only end up in a place of defeat.

God created each of us. He has a unique plan for each of us. He has given each of us unique characteristics, personalities, talents and quirks. He has gifted us specifically according to the plan he has for us. He also has specific works set aside for us to do. We won’t be able to do them if we are looking to sources other than Him to find our worth and purpose.

There is an abundant need in this world for your contributions to the kingdom…your thoughts and words and artistic expressions…your exact brand of beauty.

Choose to live loved while you’re in the middle of the journey, and know that what He has in mind for you is so much more than you imagine.

I love Lysa’s words in the above sentences. She states it so clearly.

So, will you live loved? Will you look to God for your worth? Will you let go of comparing yourself to others? What will that look like for you today?



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