True Identity

Finding it in Christ


If you are just joining us, we are journeying together through Lysa Terkeurst’s book, “Uninvited.” If you would like to read along, you can get your own copy of Lysa’s book HERE (affiliate link.)

Read the previous post here:

Making Peace With Rejection

Finding Your True Identity in Christ

When we have experienced rejection, it’s fairly common to try to find security in someone or something. In this chapter, Lysa says this about her own experience:

After my dad left, I tried to prop up what was left of me so I wouldn’t collapse into the broken place inside. Good grades. Achievements and accolades. Fun friends and good times. Boys who made me feel special. I tried to steady myself with anything that helped me feel better.

Have you noticed yourself doing this ever? When you feel insecure because of rejection, have you tried to find security in something else or someone else?

Lysa goes on to say:

Here’s the deal…when my identity is tied to circumstances I become extremely insecure because circumstances are unpredictable and ever-changing. I rise and fall with successes and failures. I feel treasured when complimented but tormented when criticized. I’m desperate to keep a relationship that makes me feel valuable. Then I’m constantly terrified of that person slipping away. Because I don’t just feel like I’m losing them…I feel like I’m losing a big part of myself as well.

Until we find our security, our true identity in Christ, we will live a life of an emotional roller coaster. Whatever we tie ourselves to, other than Christ, will always let us down, it won’t last, and will leave us feeling insecure once again.

But how do we do this? It may be easy enough to say that we need to find our true identity in Christ, but actually living it out is another thing. Lysa shares with us how to do this as well:

Old patterns of thought must be torn out, and a new way of looking at the core of who I am using God’s truth has to be put into place. My identity must be anchored to the truth of who God is and who He is to me. Only then can I find a stability beyond what my feelings will ever allow. The closer I align my truth with His truth, the more closely I identify with God — and the more my identity is really in Him.

Lysa goes on to encourage us to ask the questions, Is God good? Is God good to me? and Do I trust God to be God? By wrestling through these questions, which she does in depth in the book, we can begin to change those old patterns and replace them with a true identity found in Christ.

Are you ready to let go of insecurity? Are you ready to kick feelings of rejection out of the driver’s seat of your life? Are you ready to find your security in Christ?

I encourage you to pick up a copy of Lysa’s book, Uninvited today. The truths that she shares is invaluable in this journey of moving past rejection and living in acceptance.

The words to this old hymn comes to mind for me:

“My Hope is Built on Nothing Less”
by Edward Mote, 1797-1874
1. My hope is built on nothing less
Than Jesus’ blood and righteousness;
I dare not trust the sweetest frame,
But wholly lean on Jesus’ name.
On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand;
All other ground is sinking sand.

2. When darkness veils His lovely face,
I rest on His unchanging grace;
In every high and stormy gale
My anchor holds within the veil.
On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand;
All other ground is sinking sand.

3. His oath, His covenant, and blood
Support me in the whelming flood;
When every earthly prop gives way,
He then is all my Hope and Stay.
On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand;
All other ground is sinking sand.

4. When He shall come with trumpet sound,
Oh, may I then in Him be found,
Clothed in His righteousness alone,
Faultless to stand before the throne!
On Christ, the solid Rock, I stand;
All other ground is sinking sand.

I pray you have a blessed week!



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3 thoughts on “True Identity

  1. I think I mentioned this last week, but I’m reading through Uninvited right now too. I love Lysa’s prompting questions about God’s goodness – He is good, He is good to me, and He is good at being God. Believing that, being intentional about remembering that and His goodness just makes all the difference in securing our identity on Him, rather than others. So glad to read your insights today and visit from #RaRalinkup.