Are You Independent? Maybe There is a Better Way.

Find a richer life when you depend on God and reach out to others.


For I am the Lord your Godwho takes hold of your right handand says to you, Do not fear;I will help you.Isaiah 41_13

Let Go of “Independent” to Find a Richer Life

I’m an independent person. I don’t like to ask for help. I usually try to figure things out on my own, and I’ve discovered that it’s kind of a lonely place to be. Do you struggle with this?

God is teaching me a different way. He is teaching me to let go of my independence and to depend on Him more, even in all of the small stuff, and to reach out to others as well.

Dependence and Community.

That’s the way God designed us! He designed us to be connected with Him and with others. He designed us to work together, not alone, and it is so much better!

I generally pray to God about the BIG STUFF, but I’ve always figured that I could worry about the small stuff on my own. It’s not so much that I don’t think God cares about the small things or that I can’t trust Him with the small things, it’s more that I just figure I can take care of it myself and not bother Him with it.

I’ve discovered that God really cares about the small stuff and wants to be bothered with it!

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I’ve noticed that when I ask God for help with the small stuff, my relationship with Him deepens even more than when I see Him at work in my life in the big stuff. It’s almost as though it makes me feel more special. When I see His hand at work in the small stuff, I think to myself, “Wow! God loves me so much that He not only cares about this small part of my life, but He also has chosen to take the time to be with me in it and help me!”

Have you ever felt that? It’s a pretty cool feeling.

What about reaching out to others? Are you a person who tries to do everything on your own or do you look for help from others? Again, I fall into the camp that doesn’t want to bother anyone else. Sometimes I think that they don’t want to be bothered, they don’t have time, or I should be able to do it on my own.

However, when I reach out to others, my life becomes richer. It allows me to be known better by others and it allows me to get to know them better. Just like in my relationship with God, reaching out to others allows my relationships with them to deepen as well.

How do you think that depending more on God and reaching out to others will give you a richer life?

Here’s what it has done for me:

  • I am more aware of God in my day to day life
  • I feel closer to God as a result
  • I grow deeper friendships with others
  • I’m less focused on myself
  • I’m more open to God’s transforming work in my life
  • I’m more open to God using others in my life

If you tend to be an independent type like me, I encourage you to begin inviting both God and others into the small stuff of your life. I know from experience, your life will be richer as a result! I’d love to hear from you! Share with me in the comment section below how God has worked in the small stuff of your life.



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14 thoughts on “Are You Independent? Maybe There is a Better Way.

  1. I’m in that camp with you, Judy. I’ve noticed lately, though, that by reaching out–not so much for myself, but to help others–I’ve come to depend more on God. Because some of it is hard. Some service is easy-making a meal and dropping it off–it requires little interaction with the other person. But sometimes God calls us to serve on a deeper level-like sitting for 3 hours with a friend who just lost her husband and needed to talk–and some of it was Christian bashing. That’s not really the time to hit her over the head with the gospel; more, it’s a time to simply listen. And boy does that teach me a lot about myself–mostly that I want to jump in and say, “Yeah, I had a similar experience. Let me tell you about it.” But knowing not to. We learn to depend on God in ways we’d never expect when we reach out. Good piece, Judy.

  2. Yes, we independent types are fond of making a virtue out of our vice, but you’ve called us out on it. The only true “independence” on this planet is found in trusting the God who holds it all together. Thanks for your words here! (I think this is the first time I’ve found your blog!)

  3. Judy,
    “That’s the way God designed us! He designed us to be connected with Him and with others. He designed us to work together, not alone, and it is so much better!”

    I loved your post, today! So glad to be your neighbor for #RaRaLinkup day! I love that God tells us not to be alone. Not only is He always with us, but He’s provided network of support lest we only give up control and tap into it.
    Great word today!
    Happy Tuesday!!!

  4. Isn’t it wonderful we can always depend on God? He has also designed the church with members supporting each other. Thanks for sharing at #LMMLinkup.

  5. Hey Judy. I’m right there with ya, with the independence stuff. I’m good at taking the big and the little to God, but I’m not good at asking people for help. I get stuff done, but I wear myself out in the process. (And, lose opportunities for relationship.) Nice post to read this morning; so glad to be your link-up buddy at Sitting Among Friends this morning. ((blessings))

  6. Hi Judy!
    I think you are right on point! I think most of us tend to be overly dependent or co-dependent or independent. I think it takes a bit to reach healthy interdependence. I know that was true of me and most of the clients I worked with.
    Thanks for the great post!
    Visiting as your neighbor from #Messy Marriage.

  7. My hands up! I’m an independent type, too! I remember learning years ago that God cares about the small stuff too and that that’s not all for me to just figure out on my own -but that doesn’t mean I live it!! Thanks for the reminder and helpful tips! #Thought-Provoking Thursday

  8. You know, I was praying this morning, and I realized that I had neglected to pray for something that I had been praying for for a long time. I realized that I had stopped mentioning that prayer because I kind of felt like the Lord had already heard enough about that one and that it was pretty much solved. Then, it hit me that the situation was not really fully resolved and still needed prayer. I don’t know why I felt that it was no longer important enough to be addressed. Anyway, I stopped what I was doing to pray because I felt convicted about giving up prayer when the situation was close to being resolved. Your post reminded me of that situation. Thank you for putting it out there. It seems I needed an additional reminder.

  9. Judy, I so affirm this. God wants all of our dependence on Him. Just like a little child would do with his parent. And when we trust and He takes care of those personal, details? We know that He is OUR God, a living Savior and not a far off philosophy of man. I love this. Learning to trust Him more and more everyday.