Are you running toward something or away from something?
When I was in a place of wanting to quit my job, a friend of mine asked me a very important question. Are you running away from your job or are you running to something better? It was one of those questions that made me stop and think for a bit. I couldn’t answer it right away.
When you run away from something, you are running away from things you don’t like, that make you uncomfortable or are difficult for you in some way. On the other hand, when you run toward something, you are running toward health, or purpose, or a new stage in your life.
Sometimes it is easy to get confused between these two things. If the situation you are in is really draining, anything may sound better to you in the moment.
At one point in my journey, I was in a place of really dreading going to work, actually of hating my job. I looked online a lot for different jobs and different opportunities. I came across a course that you could take that would allow you to work from home doing medical transcription work. In my mind, all I could envision was the “work from home” aspect and talked to my husband about taking the course. He asked me some questions about it and agreed to let me take the course.
I began at once! I was so excited about being able to have a job where I could work from home. I was looking through rose colored glasses. I really didn’t think the whole thing through.
About half-way through the course, I realized that I hated it. This job would have me stuck to a computer, listening to doctors with difficult accents, trying to decipher what they were saying, typing it out without making any mistakes, and not making very much money for my efforts. My heart started to sink. In my mind, I kept trying to make it sound good. I didn’t want to give up my hopes and dreams of working from home. I didn’t want to admit that I made a mistake. I didn’t want to tell my husband that I’d just wasted a bunch of money on a course that I wasn’t going to finish or use.
I am so thankful that God has given me such a loving, patient and kind husband. When I finally worked up the nerve to talk with him about it, he said, “I knew it wouldn’t work out, but I wanted you to figure it out on your own.” Wow. I’m so glad! I didn’t know it at the time, but by going through the experience, I really did learn what it means to run away from something rather than running toward something.
God always has a reason for the experiences He allows us to go through. Later, when I started to pursue my own business and my friend asked me this important question, I really stopped to think about it. I spent several days mulling it through. I didn’t want to justify my actions because it was what I wanted. I really wanted to be doing what God wanted for me.
When I thought it through, I realized that this time, I really was running to something. I recognized that I’m an independent person, a creative person with many different coaching and counseling skills who can really make a difference in other people’s lives. Where the transcription job would have stifled me and driven me crazy, being an entrepreneur energized me and made me come more alive. Writing and developing products and helping others through coaching harnessed the gifts that God had developed in me over the years. Yes, this time, I really was running to something rather than away from something.
How about you? Are you feeling stuck in a job or some other circumstance that you desperately want to get away from? Does any other possibility sound great in comparison? Or, are you running toward a new dream, goal or purpose that God has placed in your heart instead? Are you moving toward a more fulfilling calling that speaks to who God created you to be?
If you are struggling with this, especially if it relates to a current job that you are in, I’d love for you to download my free e-books that are written specifically to help you with this! They are: “When Can I Quit My Job?” and “What if I Have to Wait?” These workbooks will help you in making the right decision for your life without leaping into something that isn’t right for you because you are feeling so desperate to get away.
I’d love to hear from you! Do you have any stories to share about when you ran away from something or when you ran to something? Let us know about your experience in the comments below.